Today I woke up after a horrific dream about being imprisoned for a crime I didn’t commit, and about the horrible things that jail is.
I felt like my dream was approximately 10 years in length, and that I had a life sentence of some sort. The most disturbing part of the dream is that as the years went by, any hope I had of being understood or treated with dignity slowly circled the drain.
Until I had no hope anymore. Almost like how soap is useful until it isn’t. It’s just a tiny sliver. You can melt that sliver with another sliver, but it’s still going to run out and will go down the drain.
In my dream, I was a person in a jail situation who had lost hope. In addition to everything else, I became mute. The likelihood of any sympathy or understanding was zero. I could see the scars where I might have been dragged across a floor. There were old cut marks. One person remarked to me “Do you remember how you got those cuts? That was one hell of a fight. You must remember that.” Resigned to violence, I just shrugged my shoulders and walked away. Because I didn’t remember. I didn’t care to remember.
I knew I had gone days and days without food for some reason, and refused to participate in the social structures that were in place. I even refused to go outside during yard time because I hated the sun. Eventually, after too many beat-downs, I was forced outside.
There was no point in fighting, there was no point in talking. Because nobody listened. If nobody cared about my basic needs, and I knew they did not, they most certainly didn’t give a shit if I had any self-esteem. And even the people in jail gave me a wide berth because they knew I had been accused of committing murder, and the fact that I didn’t talk and just suffered in silence ALL DAY EVERY DAY unnerved them.
If anyone approached me I was able to make them panic and run away with a look that stated plainly “get out of my face or your dead body will be lying right over there in about T minus 5 seconds.”
I didn’t get visitors. I was being kept alive simply to suffer. No lawyer in his right mind would re-open my case. The only thing left to do after the proverbial soap ran out was to hang myself. Fortunately, the dream ended before I was able to make plans.
I still have a terrible headache.
That dream was a direct reflection of how I feel every day. It brought me back to why I began this blog in the first place. I still don’t have a diagnosis. I’m still depressed all the time. But at least some people are listening. Maybe for the jokes, maybe for the insight, maybe for morbid curiosity. And I’m still very much alive.
I follow a blogger called Damsel in a Dress. The author, Lisa Walters, encouraged me to start a blog. She wrote an article today called You’re Not Making up Your Chronic Illness that really resonated with me and if you have time, please check it out. It’s worth a read.
Here’s a picture of a really cute cat. For no reason at all.
I read it and I am sorry you feel this way on a daily basis. Depression is a monster and the important thing is to remember that it lies, and when things get bad try not to listen to the voices that say you are worthless and don’t matter. You do. And I follow you not only because I think you are hilarious, but because you are honest. Please don’t give up. Keep writing your blog. And know that there is always hope and that you matter. You do! 🙂
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Thank you for the encouragement. Wow I must have been in a state because I totally forgot to edit the blog after writing it. There were some embarrassing errors!! Anyways I appreciate your following and reading a lot. Yes, I’m pretty honest. Without that, there wouldn’t be a blog. And without humour, well, there wouldn’t be me. 🙂
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Don’t even give another thought, or shit about errors. The only things that matters about this post are the words that were written and what they mean. It is very hard to make yourself vulnerable, but only when you do can you heal and find what you are looking for. Way to go girl!!
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Well, I thought that this post was rather clever. I mean, being suicidal and all, having no hope, dreaming I was in jail, and then titling the article “hope on a rope” and having the soap be red and all, you know the color of blood. What do I have to do to get people to read my stuff? I guess I have to be famous, that’s what.
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